Attachment Styles
The four attachment styles, explained honestly
Attachment styles are not personality types. They are nervous system patterns, learned early and running quietly ever since. Read the one that sounds like you, then read the one that sounds like the person you keep choosing.
Not sure which one is yours? The quiz takes about three minutes.
Take the Attachment Style QuizCommon questions about attachment styles
What are the four attachment styles?
Secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Each one is a strategy your nervous system learned early for staying connected to the people you depend on.
How do I find out my attachment style?
Read the style that sounds like you and notice what lands physically. For a faster answer, the free twelve question quiz on this site gives you a result in about five minutes.
Which attachment style is most common?
Secure attachment is the most common, at roughly half of adults. Avoidant accounts for roughly a quarter, anxious for roughly a fifth, and disorganized is the least common.
Can you be more than one attachment style?
Most people are. You can be secure with friends and anxious with a romantic partner, and disorganized attachment by definition runs two opposing strategies at once.